Your big day is one of the milestones that you are looking forward to in your life. You are about to form a union with the person you consider your soul mate, the love of your life. It can be very exciting, but you may also experience a roller coaster of emotions, some of which are not exactly happy. There may be occasions when you feel utterly overwhelmed, anxious, and unreasonably stressed
Pre-wedding jitters and anxieties are normal. Some couples often experience it, and the good news is, that they have overcome it. The better new is, you can do something about it. If you are looking for some ways to deal with this gracefully, here are a few pointers that you may want to keep in mind:
Keep the wedding off your conservations
When you and your fiancé have been talking about the wedding all the time, you may notice that stress will always get to you both. You are both dealing with details, and while it happens, you get to see each other’s differences, tastes, and leanings, which may lead to conflict. If this constantly happens, you may want to spend time with your fiancé in a manner that does not involve wedding. Go out and have dinner, but do not talk about the wedding. Schedule a trip and keep the stress at bay.
Ask your friends
At times like this, it is advised that you turn to your social support to alleviate stress and anxiety. It would be nice if you can talk to a friend who has gotten married recently. This will help validate your concerns, which in turn may comfort you. You can ask them what they have done to calm their pre-wedding jitters. Eventually, these people have found that it’s worth taking the plunge.
Look back on your memories
Sometimes, some amount of reminiscing may calm you down. It will make you realize how beautiful your relationship with your fiancé is. And it will help you look forward for more; you will want to see what the rest of your life with them will be like. At this case, you may want to look at old photos or videos of you and your fiancé. If you have the time, you may choose to create a scrapbook with them. While doing so, you will also be able to recall some stories, and have a good laugh.
Get professional help
If you have done a lot of things to quell your jitters, acknowledge that you may be needing a professional to help you deal with this stress. Contact your therapist, and tell them about your fears and anxieties. In case, therapy is new to you, consider getting telehealth therapy.
You can do it!
Pre-wedding jitters and anxieties may make you second-guess your choices and decisions about the upcoming marriage. And that is all right. They’re normal, and they happen to a lot of couples, too. Acknowledge that you have it, and that you need some help to deal with it.