There are many reasons you might want to start over. A divorce, the loss of a loved one, or any other traumatic experience are significant events you need to heal from. It could also be a mental illness affecting your relationships, and your gut tells you that the only way you can move on is to start over.
The problem is you’re not sure how.
Sometimes, the only means to unstuck yourself is to carry a backpack and touch your savings. It doesn’t necessarily have to be expensive; what you want to do is invest in decisions that will do your mental health a lot of good.
A new environment will refresh your mind. If you’ve lived your entire life in Queenstown, consider moving to Clementi. The different people and culture will give you a better sense of beginning anew. You won’t have to worry about the prejudice you suffered before or live up to a certain reputation. Nobody here knows you–it’s the clean slate you’ve always wanted.
While you’re in the processing of building a new identity, you’ll also want to make sure that you’re happy with your living space. This is your safe place, and it’s important that you feel that way about it. Search for an interior design company that can help you achieve this. You might be surprised at how much color psychology and patterns can affect the ambiance of your home.
Above all, make sure that your choices make you happy. Remember that your home is supposed to please you and nobody else.
Availing the services of a psychologist isn’t a public admittance that there’s something wrong with you. Anybody might need therapy in different phases of their lives. Choosing to continue your therapy is your means of pursuing your healing. Oftentimes, it’s a neutral, outside perspective that you need to see the bigger picture of life.
Moving can mean finding a new psychologist within your vicinity. Look up only reputable ones, or ask trusted friends and family for their recommendation. Keep in mind that while it shouldn’t be a secret, it’s also something that you aren’t obliged to tell everyone. The last thing you need is strangers poking their noses in your past. Learn to establish healthy boundaries. Getting a lot of new people involved in your problems rarely benefit your attempt to start over.
Developing New Skills
Many people, when they reach adulthood, lose hobbies that they used to be passionate about. Starting over can mean starting these hobbies again. You can also search for new ones that help you feel calm, collected, and happy. Hobbies are great reminders that life isn’t all about corporate success and social status.
Don’t be afraid to sign up for classes. You might not have been the creative one in your family as a child, but that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy painting or pottery. How about volunteering at a local shelter? Dogs are loving creatures that can give you emotional support. Who knows? You might end up adopting one and finding the companion you never knew you needed.
Accepting the Challenge
Starting over won’t always be easy. Moving to a new place, attending therapy, and acquiring new skills will have their unique challenges.
The important thing to remember is that it’s not about doing it perfectly. Starting over is all about soul-searching and loving what you find.